Had enough of UK Dating? Try your luck across the pond.
Helen 33 had tried dating in the UK but the Manchester native never seemed to click with any one. So she tried her luck on the Internet but still she never got further couple of dates. Then she saw Iloveyouraccent.com and she had an idea. Why not try to date a different man in every state in the USA? Is she serious? Apparently she was. Currently she is in Florida but she’s not dating the States Alphabetically, it seems she’s going where the flights are cheap and the weather is warm.
She is going to start a diary for us and keep us up to date on her dates.!
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Don’t just say I love your Accent, be a part of it.
Americans, Brits and UK dating
It’s no secret that Americans love the way Brits speak and any Brit who has spent time in America will have certainly heard “I Love Your accent” at least once a day. I always fell that it’s much nicer that people like something about you than hate something about you, so its all good.
It seems many American ladies love the Irish accent as well as the Hugh Grant posh tones too. But when they search for “UK dating “or ‘men with accents “ have they ever heard a Geordie accent or a Brummie speak? I doubt it and if they had, most wouldn’t be able to grasp what was being said anyway. These type of regional accents are less popular with Americans and sadly a huge percentage believe that English folk wander around in the fog wearing capes and shouting Cheerio to anyone within earshot.
There’s more to the Brits than just their accents but if its accents you love and you would like to have a go at UK dating try the people at I Love Your accent and who knows what accent you might hear.
Don’t just say I Love Your accent, be a part of it.
http://www.iloveyouraccent.com
Duchess Digest: Five Tips for Long Distance Success
http://singlemindedwomen.com/women-relationships/long-distance-dating-tips/
After watching the recent new release Going the Distance, I began to ponder just how many relationships have survived long distance and how do both sides make it work? You have likely either been in a long distance relationship or have a close friend who has so you know all too well the challenges that these particular partnerships can sometimes present. Not to worry! We’ve discovered a lovely dating expert to help share some tips to make things work when you’re doing the long distance ‘thing!’
Rochelle Peachey is a dating expert and founder of the site ‘I Love Your Accent’ (www.iloveyouraccent.com). Who better then a British born Florida living dating site founder to help you navigate and go the distance? Rochelle is about to share with you 5 ways to keep the flame burning, even from a distance! Or as she says, “there’s no doubt about it, being one half of a Long Distance Relationship can be tough on your heart but here are a few tips to keep the flame burning while you are apart.”
- Communicate constantly by Phone, Text, Skype yes all three. Try to personally say goodnight on the phone but if that’s not possible text some sweet and maybe sexy words so he/she falls asleep with you as the last voice they hear. A wake up call from you is wonderful also, sets them up for the day.
- Plan the day you will be together again, talk about where you will go and what you will do (to each other)!
- Use good old fashion mail! There is still something special about receiving a gift or cards with that special message from the one you love. Maybe because it took more thought and time than an ecard, but they are good too.
- As long as you both agree then get a little sexy on Skype or send him some pictures of you in that skimpy outfit or bikini he loves for you to wear. Keep that flame burning.
- Play games together online, laugh and always let the other person know what you are doing and how much you miss them. Words cost nothing and mean so much.
Finally, one of the greatest pieces of advice that Ms. Peachey shares which ties in perfectly with the foundational advice that Duchess always preaches is to make sure to invest in yourself and your own life – it’s a great way to make long distance run it’s course much more smoothly. As Ms. Peachey says, “Missing your love is sometimes the hardest part of all in a long distance relationship. When you have put the phone down, or you weren’t able to speak for long that day, how do you deal with the loneliness and jealousy that can sometimes creep up on you?
The real answer is to try to create a full life for yourself while you are apart. Take up a new hobby maybe something you’ve been wanting to do but never had the time. Build (or rebuild) a social life with friends and family accept invites and do your best to keep busy. Take some time for you, join the gym or book pamper day at the Spa.It’s nice to be missed, but it’s not nice to think of your partner being miserable and missing you so much it becomes unbearable.
Try to plan your life to be full and fun when you can’t be together. Let them know that absence truly does make the heart grow fonder!”
If you’re looking for another outlet for dating and love the accents of other lands, be sure to check out Rochelle’s dating and relationship site for meeting great singles. She is an author and dating expert from London England and the founder of Transatlantic dating site ILoveyouraccent.com. She started the site because she was constantly being asked by her English friends if she could set them up with American dates and her American friends wanted to meet Brits! So if you’re looking for a new avenue for dating, check it out and remember, like Rochelle always says, “Don’t just say I Love Your Accent, be a part of it.”
And that’s great dating advice according to the fabulous Rochelle Peachey and her new convert, the Duchess.
I’m dating again……Help!
I’m dating again……Help!
So you are back in the dating game, a game you thought you wouldn’t have to participate in again and certainly not at the ripe old age of 35 or 40. It may seem daunting and yes indeed, times have changed, there is no need to go to the bar or club 5 nights a week and hope the woman/man of your dreams cosies up to you and it’s a happy ever after ending.
Online dating is here in a big way and there are many great reasons to date this way especially if you are dealing with dating insecurities and who isn’t?
With online dating you can effectively “date” more than one person at a time. You need a computer and a glass of wine, no need to get dolled up just yet, that will come along when you are ready to use Skype of the websites face to face feature that many include; for now you will need a good clear picture of yourself and make sure it’s a recent one. Uploading a picture when you were eight years younger and ate less food just makes people angry when they don’t get to meet the person they saw in the picture. Follow these easy steps and you will be dating in no time.
Step one. Take a good Picture or get a friend to snap you in a great light.
Step two. Write a killer profile and decide on a unique user name to pique their interest.
Step Three. Stay positive at all times.
Dating online is not all about getting 50 emails in your inbox each time you log on, its about getting quality replies from people you could really get to know. Don’t wait for members to email you, if you like the look of them and have an interest in getting to know more, send them a flirt or a short email introducing yourself. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
This kind of dating eases you back into the dating game and takes away your dating insecurities because you control the pace at which you date, if someone comes across as pushy or rude, hit the block button and its goodbye forever!
When you feel comfortable with the person you have been corresponding with and decide to meet them you will probably know a lot more about them and their interests than if you had met in a local bar. Hopefully it works out well but if it doesn’t you may have just increased your circle of friends.
Have fun and stay safe and if you have any dating issues or dating insecurities that you would like me to address please email me and I will do my best to find the answer. Don’t just say I Love Your accent, be a part of it.
THIS WEEKEND IS BUSIEST WEDDING WEEKEND OF 2010
THIS WEEKEND IS BUSIEST WEDDING WEEKEND OF 2010! A lot of Brits will be ‘getting to the church on time’ this weekend as nearly 7,000 weddings take place over three days.
With that said, ILoveyouraccent.com would like to send special wishes to Jason and Valerie our 5th couple to tie the knot. Although they wont be walking down the aisle in the UK Jason is a Brit from Yorkshire who found love with a beautiful American woman on our site and tomorrow they will say “I do” in a small romantic ceremony in Antigua.
Congratulations from all of us at ILYA. Don’t just say I Love Your Accent, be a part of it.
Do you know where your pictures are?
Do you know where your pictures are?
We all upload pictures to our Facebook accounts without a second thought. In fact sometimes we are so proud of how we look or where we have been that we just cannot wait to share that image with our friends. But did you know there is a website selling Facebook accounts? The going rate for 100 Facebook accounts is a mere $17!
So why would anyone want to buy Facebook accounts? The number one reason is to use your pictures on dating and porn sites. Your pictures will be used in fake profiles. A married friend in London England was told that her husband was using a dating site by a friend and sure enough, his picture was there but all the personal details were wrong, his pictures had been used in a fake profile scam and it almost caused their divorce.
I have been trying to draw attention to this scandal but no one in the media seems to care, perhaps they would if they found one of their own kids Facebook pictures being used in a fake profile scam.
I run transatlantic dating site ILoveyouraccent.com and I know how much effort, time and money it takes to get people to take notice of your site and to get them to sign up and become a member is even more work. I only launched my site in February this year and we have 0ver 5,000 members. That’s not a lot compared to many other dating sites. but all my members are genuine, I have never “bought” or “fabricated” profiles and I never will as its unfair . We are growing daily and people are getting together so I know it works as we have had 4 weddings and a baby on the way. These are real people meeting online. I recommend you put a logo or watermark on your pictures before uploading them to the web. All the pictures on my site have ILYA (I Love our Accent) on them making them difficult to use on another site.
Have you ever wondered how a dating site you have never heard of explodes onto the web with 500,000 members? How did they get so many people on their site? Simple, they bought them, all of them. Another scammer website actually states “don’t start a dating site with no members, buy them from us”. In dialogue I had with someone offering me the Facebook accounts he states that they prefer to hack UK and USA Facebook accounts, as the pictures are so much better!
For research into this underground practice, I bough 100 Facebook accounts with passwords and pictures all for $17.
See screen shot of one web site that offered to sell me Facebook accounts. (click for full-size)
So, in closing, do any of us know where our pictures are ending up?
Answer. For sure they are on dating sites around the world and quite possibly on some seriously unsavory sites too.
For more information about this scam please send me an email at rochelle@iloveyouraccent.com
Take care all.
Rochelle
Finding the ONE!
Finding the ONE!
Kelly Preston saw a picture of John Travolta and KNEW she was going to marry him, so how do you know you have found the ONE? Read the replies from experts and regular people and please add your own tips as we love to read them; let us know if you agree with what others say about finding that special ONE. Do you go weak at the knees and butterflies in your tummy or is that just nonsense?
Let us know.
Thank you
Rochelle
You know a man is the one when you begin to, without thinking about it, turn down offers from other men. You know he’s the one when you feel slightly dizzy when your face is touching his. He’s definitely the one when you can’t stop thinking about him. And he’s DEFINITELY the one when he pays for everything when you’re together:) Tee hee.
Spoken by a widow of 5 years. Robin
In answer to you question. Our relationship has went very fast by some peoples standards but it has worked for us. Our relationship started in June 2010 by me helping a woman in the same profession on a licensing issue in another state by email on a Linkedin sub group. Things have continued by email and phone. We will meet in person in October 2010 and will most likely be engaged by the end of the year with a marriage in 2011. She is in Denver, Colorado and I am in Portland, Oregon. She knew before I did in that she is highly intuitive. We have found over many long conversations in that we have many, many things in common and we are on the same page on how we feel about many things. I am older and she is younger. She very much values my intelligent and my experience. She is exteremly intelligent in her own right. Mike
I have been married for 20 years, and I knew my husband was the one on the very first date. We dated for two months and were engaged for 4 months and married. Knowing each other a long time was not the deciding factor. The day I met him I felt utterly at ease as if I was sitting across from an old friend. Its that sense of comfort and acceptance — and absolutely no fear of not being love but just feeling completely and utterly accepted for who you are. I think you know youre with the one when you feel comfortable, accepted and loved unconditionally. Alexandra
I am a relationship expert based out in San Francisco. In terms of soul mate, some of my clients feel as though if they do not feel the first spark at the very first date, they dismiss that person as a potential. In order to determine whether they match, it is important to continue on the first date getting to know one another. After a few weeks, of spending time together and truly getting to know someone on the friendship level, they can determine if they are a soulmate. The problem is that people get involved physically too soon to the point that they confuse love with infatuation. One of my clients, after a few weeks of dating this person, eventually fell for that person and are now happily married. I truly believe that is the secret especially when it comes to online dating. Rather than having to make that decision on the first date, keep it as friends and see where it develops. Here are a few things to determine whether they are “the one”:
1. You can confide in them the same as you would confide in your best friend.
2. You miss spending time with them.
3. You love them unconditionally.
4. You find their little quirks to be so sweet.
5. You would do anything for them (within reason) if they needed help. Janine
I had my first suspicions that my husband was special the moment he took my hand to bring me onto the dance floor. We met at a club. There was a spark when our hands first touched. This spark then turned into “magic” when he kissed me goodbye that night while I was waiting for my car. I still remember that “soulmate” feeling. The next night we met for our first date. Many hours later, the very first time I laid in his arms, I knew my husband was my soulmate . This October 11th we will be together 25 years … married 23 … and the magic … that soulmate feeling when we kiss … still continues. Martyne
My name is Stephanie and I am a relationship and self-help advice expert. I would like to share the seven characteristics that let you know when you have met your soul mate. I also share how to transform your soul mate connection into a lasting relationship. From “Soul Mate FAQ”: How do I know if I met my soul mate? There are seven common soul mate characteristics:
1.THERE IS AN INSTANT CONNECTION: letting you know that the soul contract has been activated and that this person is going to be a significant person in your life.
2.THERE IS A PALPABLE CHEMISTRY: your fell an energetic pull towards this person, you want to touch them and be close to them. Your energies harmonize beautifully, and there is a rightness that can be felt when you stand together
3. THEY FEEL FAMILIAR TO YOU: there is an immediate level of comfort and a profound sense that you understand and really get the person. Many people say, “I feel like I have known them forever”. Spiritually speaking, this is true!
4.THERE IS AN INTENSITY BETWEEN YOU: there is also a level of excitement that can be encompassing 5. YOU FEEL HIGH: this person’s presence amplifies your energy field, creating lots of expansion and feelings of passion and power.
6. YOU MAY EVEN LOOK SIMILAR: Yes, sometimes we look like our soul mates (same coloring, same bone structure, same features)
7.YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH TIME CHANGES: You are trying to process what the liner brain cannot comprehend—that you have found the eternal piece of yourself that can be mirrored back to you perfectly by another person
Are you a man snacker?
http://www.cosmopolitan.com.au/are_you_a_man_snacker.htm
Do you treat men like a box of Smarties? Indulging in them whenever you feel the need? If so, you are in danger of being a Man Snacker. Cosmo investigates….
Sitting at work, Wendy Norris, 26, picks up her mobile and sends a message to a guy she is dating. She then types in a flirty email to her work colleague and pokes her ex on Facebook. Wendy is a typical man snacker – a woman who has various men in her life to keep her entertained as and when she needs them. “I always have more than three men on the go,” she explains, grinning. “I have one man who I go on dates with, another who I sleep with and a few on the side for innocent flirting. I don’t see what the fuss is all about. Why have just one man when you can have loads?”
The type of women who depends on male attention and has multiple dating partners has been coined a “man snacker”. However, will eating up all this attention just leave you with a stomach ache? “When your needs are being met by multiple men, a bit like snacking, you never get hungry enough to go out looking for a real meal,” explains Michelle Fiordaliso, co-author of Everything You Always Wanted to know about Ex. “The focus on these quick fixes takes the focus away from looking for a long-term partner. A decade can pass very quickly and all of a sudden you’re not sure why you’re the only single girl on the block.”
Wendy is a prime example of a man snacker. She is constantly wondering if she can do any better. “No matter what man I am with, or how sexy, fun, intelligent or great in bed they are, I’ve always got one eye open to check there isn’t someone better/hotter/richer around the corner. I suppose in a way I’ve realised Mr Perfect doesn’t exist, so by dating loads of men I get all the good bits of each of them, without any of the bad bits.”
Dating expert Rochelle Peachey sees the danger up ahead for Wendy and others like her. “She may overlook someone who is completely right for her, just because she is keeping her options open. It’s like looking for a new pair of shoes. You may find one that you love, but are worried there might be a better pair in the shop across the road. However, when you realise [there isn’t], you come back to find that first pair of shoes has been sold.”
Alice Hill, 25, admits to being a man snacker for different reasons. “My confidence was really low after I got dumped by my boyfriend of two years, and so I hit the dating scene with full force. Every time a new man chatted me up, I felt my confidence soar. It was as though with each man who showed interest, I felt more and more sexy and attractive. Now I have lots of different men on the go and can’t bare the thought of getting back into a serious relationship. I love the attention I get from man snacking far too much.”
Man snackers can be easily identified. “More often than not man snackers will wear revealing clothing, be loud and confident, and boast about their conquests to anyone who is listening,” says Peachey. “They are proud of the fact that so many men fancy them and it gives them a false sense of security. I say false, because in the end no man who wants to settle down will put up with his girlfriend seeing lots of other men. By being a man snacker, women putting themselves in a position where men will never respect them will [likely] never find the one.”
So, if you are the type of woman who gorges on lots of different men, but knows deep down you hope to be married with children one day, try reducing your appetite. Fiordaliso says, ”If someone notices they’re a man snacker, they have to train themselves to stop looking for a tasty treat of a guy who’s not going to supply that much long-term nourishment and start to look towards the type of men who are more like slow-burning carbs – maybe not as exciting as a cupcake at first glance, but better for you, and ultimately not going to make you sick in the end.”
Louise Paynter, 28, ditched her man-snacking ways after realising she was only attracting men who would never settle. “I had lots of different men I was flirting with but, about six months down the line, I realised none of them could offer me anything more than just a quick kiss or romp,” she explains. One day, realisation struck. “I needed to clear out my life, so I closed my computer, stopped sending texts and turned down dates. A month later, I met the man of my dreams and we’re now getting married. Snacking was fun while it lasted but in the end I wanted something a bit more fulfilling.”
Tiffany Wright
Rochelle Peachey is a dating expert who has set up the site iloveyouraccent.com.
What Do Women Want?
I put out a query What Do Women Want?
Here are some of the replies I received from women on both sides of the pond. Some are regular women and a few are “Experts”. Do you agree with them or have something to add? Please get in touch and keep the conversation flowing.
Rochelle
Hello!
Good, bad, or indifferent, here is a list of what I WANT, or I should say NEED, in a relationship as a 53-year old, divorced, single female:
Honest and trustworthy
Faithful
Genuine
Nurturing (physically, emotionally, and spiritually)
Supportive (emotionally)
Truly engaged in activities – not a passive bystander
Sense of humor
Makes me feel like he’s proud to be with me
Values my opinions and ideas
Non-controlling or manipulative
Has some giddy up and go sexually.
Mary CT
For me, communication. Once I began meeting guys who would really communicate, my whole idea of relationships changed. When I was younger, I wanted the “strong, silent type”. Once I learned who I was and was open and available to new relating, I wanted communication.
Without communication, one can’t change what the other doesn’t like OR, at least have the choice to do so. This “if you loved me you’d know what I want” is crap. Love doesn’t make one a mind-reader. Asking for what one wants, telling what one wants makes life so much easier.
~ Revy Manchester
What women want can be summed up in 3 words:
Honest, Genuine Man!
They want a man who is genuinely interested in them. Someone who makes them “feel”special which is why often it is the smallest thoughts and gifts that make such a big difference, rather than the money. Don’t forget most of these women are very successful in their own right and are financially independent.
Unfortunately for some women, Chick Flicks have got in the way and have distorted what they think they want. Some women tell us that they’re look for the perfect man who is going to appear on his stallion, tick all the boxes (and there is often a long list!) and whisk them into the happily ever after. What they find in reality is that even when you do find a “perfect” man, both he and you aren’t perfect all the time and it’s about give and take – working as a team. This is not what they were expecting and they often change the type of guy they’re looking for by the end of their journey.
Jeannette, Ireland
I am a divorced 37-year-old woman with 3 small children. Simply put, as my girlfriends and I discuss men and relationships at this point in our lives it seems to me that what we all desire is a man who is willing to allow us our Independence without being threatened by it. The fact is, after a divorce, especially involving young children, a woman learns she must depend upon herself. We want our men to be happy that we have conquered home repairs and we have finally figured out how to negotiate a contract effectively and we are in command of our finances. This is not an effort to replace the men in our lives. It seems that is sometimes how it is taken. Many of us spent years supporting a man and his career; Tending to the home and letting our professional skills, licenses and contacts fall by the way side. When the divorce comes the man keeps his extra degrees, huge contact list, honed skills and big paycheck, while the woman walks at way with children, expenses and no career- plus the huge knowledge gap that contains all the traditional “man things” that we left up to our husbands- from mowing to 401K When reentering the dating world, we love that men naturally want to “take care of us”, but we are wise to the reality that helping him build his business, taking care the home and filling that traditional role puts us in a potentially bad position. It isn’t that we are “liberated, independent, career women who see no value in a traditional family life”. It is that it is very hard to start a career over after 35 and if you put yourself in a situation where you are out of the work force, or working for his business, you run the risk of having to start over. We need the men that we date to understand while many of us like a traditional dynamic, while we’d love to embrace spending our time supporting his endeavors and being a “helpmate”- it puts us in a vulnerable position that is very uncomfortable and we feel the need that in order to survive we need to be knowledgeable women who are self sufficient and they shouldn’t be threatened by that need. Here’s to good women- May we know them, May we be them, May we raise them!
C, Tulsa
What Women Want?
1. They want a someone who will listen!
2. They want respect
3. They want boundaries respected
4. They want to feel safe
5. Great sex
6. To feel loved
7. To know she has a partner she can depend on
Women don’t want men to just listen to their problems. They need someone who listens to what kind of support they need and what they need in the bedroom. I find that a lot of men will ask a woman about what she likes and doesn’t like in the bedroom and when a woman states what she doesn’t like the man tries to convince her why he is different then other men, why he is better than other men and proceed to tell her why it will feel good with him. Have you heard the saying all talk no action. It happens a lot! They say one thing, but when it comes down to it, it wasn’t good and she wishes she would have said no. Hence they are not listening to her or respecting boundaries. The outcome is now the woman doesn’t feel safe or feel like she is respected. This shuts down communication and essentially shuts down the relationship. If a man wants a woman to be open to new things, concepts and experience, he has to build truth through listening, respect and after a period of time approach the situation with a loving attitude. Explaining why he’d like to experience this with her. This works with any concept even beyond the bedroom.
The great sex comes from having the first four things in order. If you listen to her she will communicate what she needs in the bedroom and in turn you’ll give her great experiences. This leads to her feeling loved.
The last one is trickier. How does a woman know she can depend on you? It comes in a variety of forms. If you’ve been working late and going out with the boys every night after work and eventually she ask you for one night home alone and you turn her down. She can’t depend on you. If she has an emotional crisis and you leave or during an argument you abandon her and the situation, this drives home the fact that you cant be trusted and are not dependable. She’ll know and understand that if you have kids, you probably won’t be looking after them because you shy from responsibility. It could lead her to believe you would abandon the family once you got tired. The woman now fits your pattern of not being there in every area and aspect of your lives and rightly so. They’re always warning signs to a bad relationship and if you are lacking in one area of he seven something isn’t right.
This is what women want. It’s not much different than what men want except a woman extends this thinking into the future in terms of family life and building a family. Having the children will she do it alone etc…Men need the same things. They just need it expressed a little differently. If men could put themselves in the woman’s shoe they wouldn’t think women were so confusing and difficult. If you have this basic foundation you can build from here on up.
BB New York
Here’s what I want: someone who is honest and not a “game player” – or a player. Someone who is as interested in me and in himself. Someone who has friends and understands the importance of my friends – who doesn’t expect me to give up my friends because we are in a relationship. Someone who has enough interests that I’m not expected to be the sole source of entertainment and affirmation. Someone who is (at least) self-supporting, and can be self-sufficient. Someone who is bright, funny and has a work ethic. Someone who cleans up after himself – and knows how the washer and dryer work and uses them. Someone who enjoys a good cuddle and knows the difference between making love and having sex. Looks? They come BEHIND all this. Good looks would just be a bonus. Oh yes, and in my life, someone who enjoys hockey would be a plus too.
Angela, Colorado
A man strong enough to allow and able to relish their 50+ partners new found confidence and independence
* A man who can go with the flow of life which may turn that 50+ partner in a multitude of directions from new careers to philanthropic adventures to the arts or the grandchildren
* A man confident enough in his own sexuality to know that a 50+ woman has turned d her sex drive 180degrees inside her body and engaged her soul in finally owning her sexuality. It is a powerful experience to be with a woman who knows this and what she offers is not for the weak of heart…take that Viagra!
* A man independent enough to give his 50+ partner the quiet reflective space she will increasingly yearn to explore the mysteries of life and to move slowly and profoundly with her sophisticated wonder
* A man intelligent enough to know that this 50+ woman will cherish the friends she has now because these are the women she has chosen to share her life with, still, and her connection with them is deep and solid. She will not care if her partner likes them or not and she will stay loyal to their friendship
* A man who can enjoy the 50+ woman’s sense of style which has become a personal brand and will not change because of external comment even if she “looks fat in this dress”
Dianna, London
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1. Confidence is the most attractive attribute a man can have. Any man can have any women, but they must first believe that they can. Women love confident but not cocky, never cocky-always confident.
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2. Women look for that secret confidence that says “I can make any woman happy.” It shows in your mannerisms.
• 3. Being confident and completely comfortable when talking to women draws them in. How to do this? See every woman as taken or not threatening.
• 4. Women want a man that can have fun with conversation. Someone who pays attention and asks questions about them as well as remembering what they were told.
• 5. Women want eye contact; they want to feel listened to, so nod as they talk.
• 6. Women love, in the words of Tim McGraw, “A bad boy that is a real good man,” having that edge of being “bad” while at the same time having good character.
• 7. Women like seeing some rough edges, while also being pulled together. That is “the” balance. It drives the ladies wild.
• 8. They like the man to stay in control of the interactions. Ask the ladies opinion; if she has no preference, then you need to make the decision!
• 9. They want you to keep some things mysterious. Men should deflect talk about them and redirect to talking about the woman. Keep them wanting more of you and they’ll be back for more, but always keep you word and call back when you say will.
• 10. Smelling good, makes women weak in the knees. ALWAYS take time to smell good.
• 11. They love a sly smile. A slightly tilted head and little smirk while listening, gives a playful quality that is inviting.
• 12. Women sometimes enjoy innocent touch, shoulder, knee, and back of the hand-etc. brief & not threatening. Especially if the situation is appropriate and man is attractive and non-threatening himself.
• 13. Women look for that confident walk. When the man walks in like a rock star, he will be noticed. If he just pretends he is famous and adored and walks in the room as that man, women will be drawn in. He can pretend until he starts to believe it.
• 14. Most women enjoy good old fashioned manners. Open doors, pull out chairs and guide the woman, by lightly touching the small of her back. (Think southern gentleman)
• 15. Women swoon over thoughtful, kind gestures. Short handwritten notes, a few flowers wrapped in a bouquet or a small gift for no reason can do wonders for keeping you on the radar!
• 16. Women love independence, it is sexy. Having an active full life without needing a girlfriend in your life makes you irresistible. Never appear needy or clingy.
• 17. Women want a man who spends time developing himself, things like: workout, practice hobbies, read & volunteer your time. Spending time working on your body, your hobbies or worthy projects will make you more interesting.
• 18. Women what a man that looks like he could protect her. When you take care of your body, women will want to touch it. Think defined chest, big arms, small waist and chiseled abs. Even you will want to touch.
• 19. Women want handsome, but not fussy. Good grooming is pivotal, but the man should not spend more time on their look than most women. Keep your rugged male appearance without being smelly or unkempt.
• 20. Being able to sing, dance, play music, or write poetry drives women crazy. Working on one or all will pay off big!
Julie T New York
The Geordie Accent, Love it or Hate it?
Cheryl Cole wants to try her luck this side of the pond but do you think the Americans are going to love her accent? Most Yanks wont even be able to understand her according to a survey undertaken by Iloveyouraccent.com the premier transatlantic dating site founded by Brit Rochelle Peachey.
“The feedback we got from the site was not positive for Cheryl” said Rochelle, ‘Male and female members thought she was pretty but when she spoke they thought it sounded harsh and difficult to comprehend”. We wish her good luck with her career across the pond but maybe she should stick to UK dating before trying to find a man in the USA. Why Ay!