If you really want to know what the secret to meeting others is, I’ll tell you. Here’s the real secret: It doesn’t matter which method or methods you use. What matters is that you do something!
That’s it – that’s the secret. It’s not enough to read about ideas, talk about them or even visualise them – you have to actually do something.
It’s a bit like looking for a job – you can wish for, hope for, talk about, dream about what job you want. But to make it happen you have to get out there, look for the jobs and go for it. You’ve got to figure out what job you might enjoy, you may have to do a bit of research on the company or the type of job, you may have to learn some skills, you’ll have to contact someone and then you actually have to show up for the interview.
Shopping for a potential mate isn’t really all that different. Here are a few suggestions:
Get out and do things you enjoy. Plan ahead – put some dates in your diary. It’s so easy to think you’ll do something and then never get around to doing it.
Think “abundance” and not “scarcity”. Deliberately increase the flow of people in your life – stretch your normal limits a bit. Go for volume – kiss lots of frogs. And don’t make the mistake of trying to make a relationship work because of a scarcity mentality or settle for a “better-than-nothing” relationship.
Expand your comfort zone and try new things. One of the most successful ways of meeting people is through your friends so ask your friends what activities they enjoy – and go along with them to try something new out.
Get clarity about what sort of relationship you want. Do you want friends at the moment to go to events with, do you want to date but not settle down, or do you want a committed relationship? There is no right and wrong type of relationship – as long as you are clear and you convey that. Nothing worse than two people being together with very different ideas about the relationship – at some point it will come to a head. Better to avoid that and be clear right from the start.
Don’t give up what is important to you or put the rest of your life on hold in your quest for love. Go on with your career, your friendships, your hobbies and activities or you may come to resent your search for your soul mate.
Be careful to avoid the dating binge-purge cycle where you first starve yourself of going out and then you go into a mad frenzy and go out so much that you burn out and lose interest all together. Try to keep a balance in your work – looking for love life.
No more excuses now. Even if it feels a bit daunting do as one of my favorite writers suggests “Just lean into it” (Jack Canfield):
“Oftentimes, success happens when you just lean into it – when you make yourself open to opportunities and are willing to do what it takes to pursue it further -without a contract, without a promise of success, without any expectation whatsoever. You just start. You lean into it. You see what it feels like. And you find out if you want to keep going – instead of sitting on the sidelines deliberating, reflecting and contemplating”
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Susanne Jorgensen is a psychologist, writer and professional coach who helps singles all over the world attract their ideal partner and guest blogger for I love your accent. She is the owner of The Singles Gym (www.TheSinglesGym.com), an online resource for singles wanting to feel great about themselves, create successful lives and attract their ideal relationship.
For a free Strategy Session (£497 value) to help you get clear about what’s stopping you from attracting your ideal partner email her on: Susanne@TheSinglesGym.com and write “Strategy Session” in the subject line and she will contact you
The Law of Attraction is Action
The Law of Attraction is Action
If you really want to know what the secret to meeting others is, I’ll tell you. Here’s the real secret: It doesn’t matter which method or methods you use. What matters is that you do something!
That’s it – that’s the secret. It’s not enough to read about ideas, talk about them or even visualise them – you have to actually do something.
It’s a bit like looking for a job – you can wish for, hope for, talk about, dream about what job you want. But to make it happen you have to get out there, look for the jobs and go for it. You’ve got to figure out what job you might enjoy, you may have to do a bit of research on the company or the type of job, you may have to learn some skills, you’ll have to contact someone and then you actually have to show up for the interview.
Shopping for a potential mate isn’t really all that different. Here are a few suggestions:
No more excuses now. Even if it feels a bit daunting do as one of my favorite writers suggests “Just lean into it” (Jack Canfield):
“Oftentimes, success happens when you just lean into it – when you make yourself open to opportunities and are willing to do what it takes to pursue it further -without a contract, without a promise of success, without any expectation whatsoever. You just start. You lean into it. You see what it feels like. And you find out if you want to keep going – instead of sitting on the sidelines deliberating, reflecting and contemplating”
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Susanne Jorgensen is a psychologist, writer and professional coach who helps singles all over the world attract their ideal partner and guest blogger for I love your accent. She is the owner of The Singles Gym (www.TheSinglesGym.com), an online resource for singles wanting to feel great about themselves, create successful lives and attract their ideal relationship.
For a free Strategy Session (£497 value) to help you get clear about what’s stopping you from attracting your ideal partner email her on: Susanne@TheSinglesGym.com and write “Strategy Session” in the subject line and she will contact you
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